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Making Peace with Father Time
Did you ever notice that while you were busy, living your life, time slipped away?
When I look back over the past thirty years of my life, some things feel like they happened a lifetime ago, while others feel like they were just a few months ago.
While we can’t stop time, so we can stay in a place where we feel happy, like when our children were babies and they were in our control to keep safe and to create their little lives with magic and fun, or in the throws of a new relationship where every day was a happy, new adventure, we can do things to make sure we are enjoying our lives and the moments in time where we are right now.
When we look back, time seems to have flown by – how did I go from my early thirties to my early sixties so quickly? Were the nineteen-eighties really that long ago?
Time is a strange thing. It is a thief, a teacher, and a healer. It seems to rob us of our youth, but gives us wisdom of living through tough times. And, as the saying goes, time heals all wounds.
No matter where you find yourself today, there are some concrete ways to make your present moments count. To realize where you are and to take stock in what you’ve learned and how you can use that wisdom to create better tomorrows. What do you want for your future? Do you dream of having time to cook nutritious and delicious meals? Are you dreaming of one day keeping a journal as a keepsake for your loved ones? Do you dream of having an outlet for your creative talent, like writing a book or sending in an idea for the next best sitcom? Maybe its just learning how to grow an herb garden on your porch or teaching others how to knit their next best Fisherman’s sweater.
Whatever you dream of doing in the future, the time is now to do it.
Here is a list of 5-things you can do now to get you on your path to seeing your dreams come true.
#1: Sit in silence for ten minutes every morning and connect with your higher self. Get up a little earlier than you do right now. Maybe it’s right after your first cup of coffee or tea – maybe it’s right before. Do it. Just take 3 or 4 deep cleansing breaths and then let your inner wisdom speak to you. Your ego will resist. “There are so many other things I need to do right now.” “This is silly.” “I can’t sit still.” Ignore those self-sabotaging thoughts and just do it.
#2: Set Goals – start out with easy short-term goals. Things like, buy a journal and write the date at the top of each page every day. If you don’t write anything that day, it’s okay, but I bet if you commit to writing the date every day, you will write something on that blank page – even if it’s just your grocery list. Then, write down your long-term goals. You’ll be surprised how soon you’ll find yourself getting to where you want to be.
#3: Learn the art of No. Don’t over commit. Think it through before you say yes to something. We often find we don’t have time to do the things we love, because we are committed to doing so many things for other people. If you want days where you can plan and ease into a restful weekend, then don’t commit to doing all the things that come your way. It’s okay to say no. It’s hard to do, especially if don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings, but self-sacrifice isn’t the way to fulfill your own dreams. Learn a few lines that will help you next time you have to say no to someone else’s great idea. Have it in your memory bank so you can use it when the opportunity arises. Say something like, “Oh, that sounds great, but it’s been a long week for me and I’m exhausted. Thanks for thinking of me, but I have to say no this time.” Something like this will work every time. After a while, it will come naturally, whenever you have to say no.
#4: Plan your week. At the start of every new week make a plan for yourself. When will you do groceries? When will you clean the bathrooms? When will you go for a walk? When will you plan your meals? Don’t do it all on Monday or Sunday. Spread out your chores and have the right food in the house so you can cook that recipe you’ve been wanting to try, when the mood strikes. I spent a lot of my weekends cleaning my house from top to bottom during the years when my kids were young (and I was young.). I think that’s when time gets away from us, when we’ve spent so much of it doing the drudgery of life. Do what you have to do, but don’t go on marathons so that by the end of the weekend you realize there was no time for enjoyment and now the new week is upon you. Make a plan – if something better comes along, do it – your plan is flexible. Don’t set anything in stone.
#5: Take time to do nothing. I knew a person once who couldn’t sit idle. She needed to fill every moment with something – painting a room, weeding a garden, going on a trip. I used to sit on the couch and sip my drink, peruse my magazine, and simply breath. One day she said to me, “Don’t you have a life?” I did have a life. My life. I enjoyed my rest. I loved to recharge my batteries. Sometimes doing nothing is doing the best thing you can for yourself. There will come a time when you have to get up and go, but when there’s nothing on the agenda, take advantage of it. Relax in whatever way you can – read a book all day, watch a series on TV from start to finish, or start setting your goals for your beautiful, joyful future.
There’s a reason you’re here. YOU are the reason you’re here. LOVE is the reason you’re here. CREATION is the reason you’re here.
Go within to find yourself and realize we truly are all connected. Be kind to yourself, so you can be kind to others.
Father Time is truly on your side. All you have to do is BE PRESENT in the moment – Now is where it’s at. Now is all there is.
This moment is eternity – it never dies.
I’ll meet you in the moment.
If you feel inspired, please leave me a comment and tell me how this post makes you feel. How will you start making peace with Father Time?
Thanks for reading!
All my best,
Lisa
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Lisa Battis
I’m a New England girl who loves fall most of all, but I can create cozy in any season! Join me in all the ways I bring comfort and joy into my world with positivity, creativity, and festivity.